Inner Changes for a Better (Career) Life

We are living in a busy world, full of expectations. We expect more because we are conditioned to expect more. It all starts in our childhood and we all remember our parents keep telling us what to do, how to do it and always »knowing« what is the best for us, but at the same time giving us enough freedom to live the life we want and to choose the job we dream and we’re passionate about.

And over a period of time, we adopt the program of high expectations towards ourselves. But is our mind always expecting something bigger, greater for us to happen? A dictating mindset, which pushes us forward in our conquest of a great life?

Or are the expectations our ticket to a never-ending play in which we grasp for impossible achievements, job, lifestyle? At what point do we stop and just enjoy our life, our current achievements, the choices we’ve made? And if we tend to achieve this »happiness« how long will this fulfilment last? Does it depend only on us, or do others have a huge impact on our feeling of satisfaction with our lives – our coworkers, our job, our partner?

What I think, the key to true fulfillment is to be ready for the unexpected and never to expect anything from anybody. Our expectations we have about other people lead to our disappointments – people act in their own nature. By trying to please everyone, we end pleasing no one – ourselves included. That’s why most people don’t live the life they want. We are the one expecting others to act in a certain way, a way which would give us this feeling of satisfaction. So the one disappointing us is not the other person, but ourselves, for having expectations towards others.

For your inner peace and contentment, just let go of expectations

Don’t judge, don’t take stances, just be. And when you just are, you enjoy the present moment, you enjoy life. If you want to change your lifestyle – just do it! Make changes. Wake up earlier and start jogging, go to a seminar, expand your knowledge, apply for a new job, talk honestly with your partner, and the most important – speak honestly to yourself. We’ve all heard the saying »Whatever you desire, you can achieve it«.

Your thoughts really affect what happens to you – what you focus on, that’s what you attract. Mind power is directing your thoughts towards a desired outcome. Focus on success and you will attract success. Focus on fear and failure and you will attract failure. It’s very important that you focus on the positive, because that’s when you appreciate the present moment. When you focus on the positive you begin to develop positive thinking and when you apply positive thinking you begin to attract positive situations and events into your life. Try not to be burdened with the past, because sometimes thinking about our past can bring back negative feelings and consequently negative thinking /energy. It’s the same situation with thinking about the future too much (will I get that dream job, will I ever met the right person).

Don’t ever let the past or the future steal your present. Focus on your current goals, what will make you happy today, and try to live in the moment and enjoy it. Try to never limit your potential with using the word I CAN’T!  When we’re facing a big decision like applying for a promotion, considering a career change or even leaving a job for one that feels more fulfilling but also more risky, we will find hundreds of reasons why we can’t do it. It’s the fear of the unknown that’s keeping us away from making the decision that could change our lives forever.

It’s important to visualize the life we want to live. Rather than hoping that we will achieve certain goals someday, live and feel it as if it is happening to us right now. Whatever your definition of success is, you can achieve it. So it’s very important to remember that »Happiness is not something you postpone for the future, it is something you design for the present«.

Romana Kovács – Managing Director InterSearch Slovenia
Aleksandra Jerina – Operations Manager InterSearch Slovenia